For my first post I thought I will write about the things I miss most about my “baby-less” days. Don’t get me wrong, I wouldn’t trade the days I have with BabyZ for anything in the world. But there are moments in a mother’s life when she thinks how leisurely certain activities used to be. Moments, yes! Because the next moment I am ducking down to check what BabyZ just put in her mouth. So here are some things/activities that I did not know I was taking for granted when I wasn’t a mom:
Why wasn’t I napping more? I remember once talking to my sister (mom of three) and telling her I don’t ever take naps in the middle of the day, even on weekends, even when I am crazy tired, I wait until 10 pm to sleep. She just said, you will regret it. I obviously understood what she meant in the first few days of bringing BabyZ home. Everyone tells you that you will be tired all the time, but the intensity! I certainly wasn’t prepared to be this tired. Should have napped when I had the time. Not that it would have helped now but yeah, I should have enjoyed that luxury when I had the opportunity.
Showers and baths
I used to love my early morning showers but I didn’t appreciate them as much as they deserved. And why wasn’t I taking baths? Baths with bubbles and music and candles. Not once I did that. Now I don’t have a tub and I don’t have the time. My showers now either involve having a mental conversation with the baby monitor or playing peek-a-boo with BabyZ from behind the shower curtain.
Uninterrupted meals at home
We used to talk about our work day, enjoy a home cooked meal and maybe watch some TV. This was also the time when the Husband brought me up to date with current world events, (because I couldn’t be bothered). Now we are sure to be interrupted by BabyZ trying to eat our slippers or better still, eat the food the bird has thrown out of his cage.
Oh the dates we had. Watching other people, criticizing their food choices, analyzing their relationships based on their body language and eventually trying to analyze our own relationship (that ruined many a date). It was a lot of fun. Now we are constantly ducking under the table to pick up toys, napkins, food etc. We eat fast and get out!
We have traveled with BabyZ and I must say I really miss all the room a cramped economy class seat provided. My baby hates the bassinet with a passion and insists on sitting and sleeping on me during the entire flight. I don’t eat, watch movies, talk to fellow passengers, go to the toilet or apply lip balm in flights anymore. And the longest we have flown yet is four hours. I really want to go to China with the Husband on an upcoming business trip but I am dreading the eleven and a half hour long flight. I don’t think I will go. And to my sister in Canada: Yeah I won’t be visiting anytime soon. Sorry.
Watching movies and TV shows
Before BabyZ, The Husband and I watched the first 4 seasons of Game of Thrones in a matter of days. (So we will sleep a little less this week, who cares!) Same goes for movies. If we started one, we finished it in one sitting. Now a movie is a commitment. I am especially known to fall asleep in the first 20 minutes of the movie, wake up with a start and drag myself and The Husband to bed. And the process repeats itself the next evening. So it takes more or less a week to finish a movie. And by the end of it, nothing in the ending makes sense to me.
Fellow make-up users will agree that liquid eyeliner has a mind of its own and if you fail to respect it or give it your undivided attention, it is bound to wreak havoc on your made up face. I have always loved the look of it but now I don’t have the time, let alone the patience to go through the meticulous process of getting it just right. Volumizing mascara is my best friend now.
Quality time with The Husband
For five years of married life, we had only each other. We talked so much that we reached the point where we were re-telling childhood stories. And at the risk of sounding cliché, I feel it all went by in the blink of an eye. We had really wanted a baby for the last 4 years because that was the natural progression of our life and it involved a whole lot of trying, waiting and crying. But I know that I was waiting and crying with the best person in the world. Now I wish I had not cried or lost my cool the times I did. I wish I had talked and laughed more than I did. I think it will be a few years before we can just talk about the two of us without being interrupted and I am waiting eagerly to listen to stories that I have heard many times before.
So here they are, a few of the things I miss about my non-mommy days. My baby has just started crawling and as much as I am proud of her achievement and overjoyed to have the cutest baby in the world following me around the house, I now miss the days when I put her in a spot with her toys and she raised both her arms when she wanted to be moved. So I guess this list is never-ending. One day, I am quite sure, I will write a list about the things I took for granted when I wasn’t the mother to a teenager. But she’s so worth it all.